I had the opportunity to listen to Dr Robert Holden at the I Can Do It event 2012. He shared with us his 5 keys points for success
THERE IS A BIG DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SEARCHING FOR HAPPINESS AND FOLLOWING YOUR JOY – I spent years being guilty of this one – always treating myself to something new, endless pairs of shoes, handbags, saving up for a car, fancy holidays. All these things made me happy, or at least I thought they did. I guess they were filling a gap in my life and they made me feel good for a short period of time but once the thrill of that had gone I was looking for another ‘fix’ Dr Holden asked us to think about what brings us joy? A good way to answer this is to think about things you enjoyed doing as a child– maybe drawing, singing, playing an instrument – you know all the things you used to do before life got in the way. Just giving yourself the time to do one of these things for a short amount of time each day can enable joy to start seeping back in to your life – and once you have had a little you are more open to receiving and accepting even more joy.
SUCCESS IS IDENTIFYING THE REAL MORE THAT YOU REALLY REALLY WANT- in 1957 52% of the British population said they were very happy, in a recent poll this had dropped to 36%. Hard to believe when there are more things available to us. Everyday new things are invented and created, there are gadgets galore, we can visit anywhere we want in the world, have access to endless information – if there is more out there why aren’t more of us happy? We need to take a step back and ask ourselves what it is we really want in our lives that will make us happy – I am guessing it isn’t a new TV or the latest iphone. Yeah they are great but will they make you joyful in the long run? Rather than thinking about what you want TO HAVE, think about what you want TO BE. This opens up a whole new outlook with an amazing and unlimited potential for great success.
RELATIONSHIPS – IF YOU ARE ALIVE YOU NEED HELP – Everyone needs help and support at some point in their life and it is ok to ask for it. This is one I find a little tricky to get my head round as all my life I have been independent and proud of it! You know the type – I’ll do it on my own, I don’t need anyone’s help, I’ll show you! But independence only gets you so far; there is a whole world of love and support out there that every one of us has the right to enjoy. Why struggle on your own when help is offered? People like to help, let them.
WE NEED TO HEAL – SOMETIMES IN ORDER TO BE HAPPY IN THE PRESENT YOU HAVE TO BE WILLING TO GIVE UP ALL HOPE OF A BETTER PAST.
Forgiveness sets you free and takes you from a world of fear to one of love. Forgiveness allows you to live in the present and gives you the opportunity for a new beginning. And this is not just about forgiving others, forgiving yourself is even more important. Have you made mistakes? Course you have. Does holding on to worry, regret, embarrassment help deal with them? Let it go and just move on. Every moment is the opportunity for a fresh start. Take it.
GROWTH – SOME PEOPLE GO THROUGH LIFE AND SOME PEOPLE GROW THROUGH LIFE
Dr Holden shared with us the front cover of a magazine that had an article ‘325 ways to a new and improved you.’ 325!!! That is going to keep people very busy. Growing doesn’t mean the need to change – there is nothing wrong with the real you – it means having the courage and belief to grow in to the person you are meant to be ensuring you have the life, success and happiness that you deserve. Dont just go through life doing what you think you should be doing grow through life acieving those goals, your goals, and enjoy every last minute 🙂
A great presentation and more can be read in ‘Shift Happens’