Positive affirmations are statements that describe a desired situation, and which are repeated many times, in order to impact on the subconscious mind and kick start it into positive action. In order to be effective, the affirmations need to be positive, passionate and in the present tense. For example
I attract success and abundance with all my ideas
Affirmations are basically your inner talk; unfortunately many people (myself included) spend years repeating negative thoughts about themselves, their abilities, their looks, their achievements. It seems to be all to easy to look in the mirror and start pointing out all the so-called flaws and imperfections. The more you repeat something in your mind the more the subconscious will act on it and the more the conscious mind will perceive it to be true. This destructive behaviour makes us hold back, stops us believing in ourselves and restricts us from becoming the people we are meant to be. So how do we break out of this cycle?
By choosing to think and repeat positive affirmations, the subconscious is forced into one of two reactions – avoidance or reappraisal. The greater the issue the greater the gap between the positive affirmation and the current perceived inner truth. This will result in initial resistance. This is where it is easier for the subconscious to stay with its perceived inner truth and avoid the challenge using any means possible to avoid examining the issue. You will recognise this reaction by a strong negative feeling inside as you say the positive affirmations. Stick with it!
Continually repeating affirmations with belief and passion will chip away at even the strongest resistance. Once the resistance is broken, your subconscious can then re-examine the core belief and patterns you have been working on. The effect can be amazing and things can change very quickly as the destructive beliefs get identified and replaced by your own new inner truth*.
Affirmations actually reprogram your thought patterns, they change the way you think and feel about things, and because you have replaced destructive beliefs with your own new positive beliefs, positive change comes easily and naturally.
The more specific your affirmation the more successful it will be. There are loads of great affirmation example sites on the internet. Spend some time looking at suggestions and keep tweaking until you find the one that feels right for you. When working on it there are 5 key things to remember
1) Make it positive. So ‘I am no longer in debt’ Debt becomes ‘Money flows to me and I grow in abundance everyday’ Debt is a negative word and not one you want to be repeating over and over.
2) Say it in the present tense- it gives the feeling it is happening now.
3) Keep them short and memorable
4) Say aloud to yourself while looking in the mirror – By looking yourself in the eye as you say your affirmation you increase the importance of the message to yourself
5) Write it down – many times! Stick it on a post-it and place them in places you will find them to help keep reminding yourself.
Once you have your affirmation say if over and over, and say it with enthusiasm and passion. The more you believe it the more power it will have.
So positive affirmations are great at changing old thoughts you have about yourself, but what if you want to actually achieve a certain goal, like get a new job, lose weight, start your own business? Unfortunately, no matter how positive, clear or passionate your affirmation, it’s fair to say it is unlikely any of these will ever materialise without action. In these situations affirmations work when you set a goal, define a plan and tackle it with a positive, I-can-do-it, mind-set.
For example, you decide you want to lose weight. Your goal is to lose 8lbs in 1 month. As much as I would like to tell you that by repeating ‘I am 8lbs lighter’ over and over it will just happen, you know that won’t work. So let’s identify your plan of action
- Resistance exercise 3 times a week
- Walk twice a week
- Eat meat, fish, fruit veg, eggs, nuts and seeds with one cheat meal a week
- Drink 2l of water a day
There we have a basic and effective plan on how to lose 8lbs in a month – so if we have that, why bother with an affirmation? Well you now have two choices
1) Think positively about this goal – repeating an affirmation such as ‘Every cell in my body vibrates with health and energy. I nourish it with healthy fulfilling foods’
2) Think negatively about this goal – repeating the thoughts – ‘Here we go again, another diet, its gonna be such hard work, probably won’t work anyway.’
Which do you think has more chance of success?
Affirmations give you that winning edge, they will keep you focused and on track and they will help drive you to the success you are capable of and the success you deserve. if you are prepared to work and you pair that up with a positive affirmation then I truly believe you can achieve ANYTHING you desire.
Try it. What have you got to lose?
Some of my favourite affirmations
I love life and life loves me
I love and accept myself exactly as I am
Everything I touch is a success. I move in to the winning circle
I am surrounded by love wherever I go
Money flows to me from expected and unexpected avenues. I grow in abundance every day.
* The Affirmations I encourage people to use are to enable people to deal with everyday life in a positive manner. More traumatic events and issues may benefit from professional support.